As I somersault - losing my headphones and crash hard into the grassplot - a cute girl cycles by. She asks: “Are you all right?” With a cracking voice, I barked back confused: “Part of the deal!” I was learning to longboard. #30yearsold #nevertoolatetolearn. It involved a bit more crashes than anticipated. Got overconfident, believing I could run it with Mötley Crëw in the background. Guess I wasn’t that cool yet, hahaha. More practice was needed. I spit out some grass clumps, dust myself off, reassemble my headphone (still working, yes!) and climbed back on the board. Here we go again. A small trail of blood runs down my knees, a reminder of my lesson learned. Scratches and humiliation won’t be there forever. The experience will. The mind forgets the event, but the body remembers. Tweaking my movements just a bit, to reduce the chances of this happening again. This is learning. … [Read more...]
What buying lingerie for my GF taught me about the comfort zone
A few weeks ago I wanted to surprise my girlfriend. How? With a nice set of sexy underwear! I mean,... well you know :). So I headed to the lingerie store. And although it is filled with the stuff of dreams! It is scary as shit to go in! As a friend stated: “I only go in, while tightly squeezing the hand of my girlfriend!” Hahaha! Why? I don’t know! No time to analyze. But somehow that place filled with stockings and lace,... was waaaaaay out of my comfort zone. … [Read more...]
How to escape the vicious cycle of social anxiety
Procrastination. Gotta love it! Spreadsheet and whiny colleagues could wait. I needed some distraction. Time to saturate my mind with semi-useless information. Maybe I could even contribute a bit. You've got to do your part. So while skimming through Reddit, I noticed a peculiar post. … [Read more...]
100+ Key Elements to becoming a Confident and Social Bad Ass (part 3)
Welcome (back). We continue on our endeavor. Let's finish this list. Defining the key aspects of mastering the skills of confidence and socializing. This is part 3 of the list. Look here for part 1 and part 2. This part is focused on how you relate in a confident and healthy way with others. As well as how you can effectively socialize. … [Read more...]
100+ Key Elements to becoming a Confident and Social Bad Ass (part 2)
How do you go from average to good? And from good to great? Just flowing in life? Or grabbing life by the balls and make it work for you? A bit of both actually. All summarized in 2 words: Self-development. The major proponent of getting you from zero to hero! This is part 2 of a series in which I briefly touch upon the multifaceted subject of self-development for confidence and social fluency. Check out part 1 if you are dropping in. Part 3 has also been published. As you can see from the list, it is not an easy task. With loads of aspects. But as you develop in several fields as mentioned below, you automatically will develop other aspects as well. There is a big overlap. Start slowly and get the snowball rolling. … [Read more...]
100+ Key Elements to becoming a Confident and Social Bad Ass (part 1)
You! Yeah, you! How come you have a hard time making friends? Why do you always have this nagging anxiety? How come your mind just blanks when you talk to new people? What is actually stopping you from becoming the most confident, social, ass-kicking hero there is? Well, you are. You are the key to everything. You are the limit and the potential. In your life, everything starts and ends with you. Having lots of good friends, becoming successful and filled to the brim with confidence, will start with developing yourself. No easy task. But let me help get on the way. I learned improving myself by getting a lot of help as well. So I made an extensive list (people love lists) of the most valuable elements in developing yourself. Of becoming a better person - the best you, you can be! This as part of an ebook I am writing. But I wanted to share the knowledge in advance. … [Read more...]