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Be more interesting – a few simple ways to spice up your life

By Timon

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Sunday lazy day! That is the day me and my roommate (girlfriend) are just being: “fat, old and ugly.” It’s a blissful state of mind, one we apply for days of professional couch camping. We munch fast food, binge Netflix and isolate outselves from the outer world. We enjoy the fuck out of feeling our bellies expand. Last time I just ate some fat pizzas, played tower defense and lay flat out … [Read more...]

“I’m just boring?” Add secret sauce to become more interesting!

By Timon

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Hey man, do you ever have those moments you feel nobody is listening to you? People just opt out,... Ow, they stand by politely,... but their body already pivots, waiting for a lull in your story to get the fuck out of there. I used to have those moments a lot! Still a bit nowadays, but I know it is because I just ramble about DnD to everyone. (We don’t care about your level 8 Paladin!) … [Read more...]

How coaching helped Callum overcome his social anxiety

By Timon

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[Coaching did] not just reduce my anxiety generally, but there are also lots of situation where I feel almost no anxiety now, whereas before I felt a lot!” - Callum -- Anxiety reduced by 95% when talking to strangers-- Parties, marriages and other events are now something to look forward to!-- Implemented a system to rationalize fears and insecurities, as to methodically take action. Meet … [Read more...]

Fullfilled and interesting, become who you are instead of a superficial follower!

By Timon

girl at lake powerposing

Drive out existential anxiety by living your life Why is everyone else happy and you’re not? Maybe if you also post your lunch/ass/car on Insta you will feel better? Aah yes,...sweet dopamine, that was fun for the whole 42 likes! Now what? Maybe another picture? If you think this strategy is working, you’re in for a big surprise. By all means, keep looking at everybody else. Bent over … [Read more...]

How to overcome social anxiety – step by step

By Timon

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Blushing, sweating, your gut twisting,... your mind kicks in overdrive, it's buzzing, screaming,... but nothing comes out. You're gripped by anxiety,...dreading social judgment. Sound familiar? Well ironically, you are not alone. Now what? How to overcome social anxiety? The last few years, somehow, more and more people suffer from social anxiety. Why? What causes it? But more … [Read more...]

Go with your gut – 3 models on learning intuitive thinking

By Timon

guy learns to skateboard

As I somersault - losing my headphones and crash hard into the grassplot - a cute girl cycles by. She asks: “Are you all right?” With a cracking voice, I barked back confused: “Part of the deal!” I was learning to longboard. #30yearsold #nevertoolatetolearn. It involved a bit more crashes than anticipated. Got overconfident, believing I could run it with Mötley Crëw in the background. Guess I … [Read more...]

What buying lingerie for my GF taught me about the comfort zone

By Timon

buying lingerie gives you rewards

A few weeks ago I wanted to surprise my girlfriend. How? With a nice set of sexy underwear! I mean,... well you know :). So I headed to the lingerie store. And although it is filled with the stuff of dreams! It is scary as shit to go in! As a friend stated: “I only go in, while tightly squeezing the hand of my girlfriend!” Hahaha! Why? I don’t know! No time to analyze. But somehow that place … [Read more...]

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“I find it hard to talk to people, what do I say? My mind just blanks!”

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How to approach people you don’t know and start a conversation

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3 strategies to make friends IRL – even if you feel socially left behind

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Summary: How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere – By Larry King

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