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Overcoming your fears – using Confidence Escalation

By Timon | Last Updated November 7, 2019

Is life unfair? Uhm yeah. Or at least, things are not evenly distributed. Some people are born rich, others beautiful. How about you? Born high on anxiety and awkwardness? ‘Luckily’ you’ve only learned to be shy and socially clumsy. As I’ve argued countless times, this is not a set state. You can develop, you can grow. Step by step you can overcome social anxiety. But how? It would be … [Read more...]

What to do if you don’t feel good enough for other people?

By Timon | Last Updated September 13, 2019

“I think I am not good enough? Why would someone ever talk to me?” Do you ever feel like that? Probably high school was NOT a fun time, maybe you had a few friends you were outcasts with. Of course dating wasn’t an option. Now a few years later, you have even fewer friends. You don’t really socialize, except a bit at work or during online gaming. But life goes on. And occasionally you do … [Read more...]

Be more interesting – a few simple ways to spice up your life

By Timon | Last Updated April 25, 2019

Sunday lazy day! That is the day me and my roommate (girlfriend) are just being: “fat, old and ugly.” It’s a blissful state of mind, one we apply for days of professional couch camping. We munch fast food, binge Netflix and isolate outselves from the outer world. We enjoy the fuck out of feeling our bellies expand. Last time I just ate some fat pizzas, played tower defense and lay flat out … [Read more...]

“I’m just boring?” Add secret sauce to become more interesting!

By Timon | Last Updated April 25, 2019

deer curiously looks at girl, with mountain in the background

Hey man, do you ever have those moments you feel nobody is listening to you? People just opt out,... Ow, they stand by politely,... but their body already pivots, waiting for a lull in your story to get the fuck out of there. I used to have those moments a lot! Still a bit nowadays, but I know it is because I just ramble about DnD to everyone. (We don’t care about your level 8 Paladin!) … [Read more...]

Fullfilled and interesting, become who you are instead of a superficial follower!

By Timon | Last Updated September 13, 2019

girl at lake powerposing

Why is everyone else happy and you’re not? Maybe if you also post your lunch/ass/car on Insta you will feel better? Aah yes,...sweet dopamine, that was fun for the whole 42 likes! Now what? Maybe another picture? If you think this strategy is working, you’re in for a big surprise. By all means, keep looking at everybody else. Bent over your tiny screen, yup, don't look up at life … [Read more...]

How to overcome social anxiety – step by step

By Timon | Last Updated September 13, 2019

guy taking notes in pixel trex notebook

Blushing, sweating, your gut twisting,... your mind kicks in overdrive, it's buzzing, screaming,... but nothing comes out. You're gripped by anxiety,...dreading social judgment. Sound familiar? Well ironically, you are not alone. Now what? How to overcome social anxiety? Root Causes of social anxietyWhat keeps you from solving itHealthy MindsetsTransforming negative thoughtsHow to … [Read more...]

Go with your gut – 3 models on learning intuitive thinking

By Timon | Last Updated September 13, 2019

guy learns to skateboard

As I somersault - losing my headphones and crash hard into the grassplot - a cute girl cycles by. She asks: “Are you all right?” With a cracking voice, I barked back confused: “Part of the deal!” I was learning to longboard. #30yearsold #nevertoolatetolearn. It involved a bit more crashes than anticipated. Got overconfident, believing I could run it with Mötley Crëw in the background. Guess I … [Read more...]

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