“I think I am not good enough? Why would someone ever talk to me?” Do you ever feel like that? Probably high school was NOT a fun time, maybe you had a few friends you were outcasts with. Of course dating wasn’t an option. Now a few years later, you have even fewer friends. You don’t really socialize, except a bit at work or during online gaming. But life goes on. And occasionally you do … [Read more...]
How to stop being the quiet guy
So you're at a party,... Took some guts to finally go, because normally you feel like the quiet guy. But you are there. You had a few nice chats one-on-one with some guys you kinda know. As you suddenly hear a burst of laughter, you look up and see a group bantering. So brewsky in hand, you walk up and see what is up. There is a group of guys with a fun dynamic, talking about DnD, haha, you … [Read more...]
Fullfilled and interesting, become who you are instead of a superficial follower!
Drive out existential anxiety by living your life Why is everyone else happy and you’re not? Maybe if you also post your lunch/ass/car on Insta you will feel better? Aah yes,...sweet dopamine, that was fun for the whole 42 likes! Now what? Maybe another picture? If you think this strategy is working, you’re in for a big surprise. By all means, keep looking at everybody else. Bent over … [Read more...]
What buying lingerie for my GF taught me about the comfort zone
A few weeks ago I wanted to surprise my girlfriend. How? With a nice set of sexy underwear! I mean,... well you know :). So I headed to the lingerie store. And although it is filled with the stuff of dreams! It is scary as shit to go in! As a friend stated: “I only go in, while tightly squeezing the hand of my girlfriend!” Hahaha! Why? I don’t know! No time to analyze. But somehow that place … [Read more...]
How to grow more confident – stop abusing your reward system
Life is full of wonder. Especially for kids. Remember that time? So much to explore, so much to experience. Days filled with new discoveries. The smallest details evoked amazement! All experiences in your life felt like a beautiful melody. Every tiny feature a sonorous note within a grand harmony. There were first times experiences. The first time I rolled down a grassy hill was exhilarating. … [Read more...]
How to escape the vicious cycle of social anxiety
Procrastination. Gotta love it! Spreadsheet and whiny colleagues could wait. I needed some distraction. Time to saturate my mind with semi-useless information. Maybe I could even contribute a bit. You've got to do your part. So while skimming through Reddit, I noticed a peculiar post. … [Read more...]
Small talk, how to make the most out of it when you are shy!
“And this is my second girlfriend” The big biker gestured to a cute blonde 30-year-old. Well played Mr. Biker. The 6 feet tall, 120-kilo-something guy. He was pretty cool. Introducing me to his second girlfriend,… after I tried chatting up his first one. Hahaha,… oops! That was an awesome way to start a conversation. You compliment a woman on her rad tattoo. Before you know it, … [Read more...]