A few months back I wrote a small talk cheat sheet, it really helped a lot of people. Thought I build upon that, and write some guidelines for comfortable conversation around new people. There already are a few articles on the subject, this is mostly a summary and an extension on a that. But since most of you guys only skim or don’t want to read a few 1000 words ;), voila a cheat sheet, hope … [Read more...]
17 insights to feel comfortable around others (and they around you)
Your sweat breaks out, drops race off your back. Your cheeks burn as you blush intensely,... Damn,... now everybody knows you are anxious, and what to do with your hands? Why do they feel like two spaghetti tentacles? So you nervously play with your thumbs,... No, put them in your pocket,... No pinch your forearms, aaaah! Where do you leave your hands? Wait! As you hazily gaze at the … [Read more...]
What to do if you don’t feel good enough for other people?
“I think I am not good enough? Why would someone ever talk to me?” Do you ever feel like that? Probably high school was NOT a fun time, maybe you had a few friends you were outcasts with. Of course dating wasn’t an option. Now a few years later, you have even fewer friends. You don’t really socialize, except a bit at work or during online gaming. But life goes on. And occasionally you do … [Read more...]
How to stop being the quiet guy
So you're at a party,... Took some guts to finally go, because normally you feel like the quiet guy. But you are there. You had a few nice chats one-on-one with some guys you kinda know. As you suddenly hear a burst of laughter, you look up and see a group bantering. So brewsky in hand, you walk up and see what is up. There is a group of guys with a fun dynamic, talking about D&D, haha, you … [Read more...]
Fullfilled and interesting, become who you are instead of a superficial follower!
Why is everyone else happy and you’re not? Maybe if you also post your lunch/ass/car on Insta you will feel better? Aah yes,...sweet dopamine, that was fun for the whole 42 likes! Now what? Maybe another picture? If you think this strategy is working, you’re in for a big surprise. By all means, keep looking at everybody else. Bent over your tiny screen, yup, don't look up at life … [Read more...]
What buying lingerie for my GF taught me about the comfort zone
A few weeks ago I wanted to surprise my girlfriend. How? With a nice set of sexy underwear! I mean,... well you know :). So I headed to the lingerie store. And although it is filled with the stuff of dreams! It is scary as shit to go in! As a friend stated: “I only go in, while tightly squeezing the hand of my girlfriend!” Hahaha! Why? I don’t know! No time to analyze. But somehow that place … [Read more...]
How to grow more confident – stop abusing your reward system
Life is full of wonder. Especially for kids. Remember that time? So much to explore, so much to experience. Days filled with new discoveries. The smallest details evoked amazement! All experiences in your life felt like a beautiful melody. Every tiny feature a sonorous note within a grand harmony. There were first times experiences. The first time I rolled down a grassy hill was exhilarating. … [Read more...]